What To Do With an Unhandled Dexter Cow

Many families find themselves with a Dexter cow that’s never been haltered, brushed, or touched much by people. It can feel overwhelming — especially if your goal is a safe, reliable family milk cow.

The good news? An “unhandled” Dexter isn’t a lost cause. With time, patience, and the right approach, she can become one of your most trustworthy animals.

Start With Trust, Not Force

An unhandled cow isn’t “wild” — she’s just unfamiliar with human contact. Forcing halters, ropes, or stanchions too soon can make her more nervous. Instead, begin with:

• Quiet presence in her space (sit, feed hay, talk softly).

• Small touches around the shoulder or neck once she’s calm.

• Consistency — short, positive sessions every day.

Move Toward the Halter

When she’s comfortable being near you, introduce a halter slowly. Let her sniff it, rub it on her neck, and only then try slipping it on. The first goal isn’t control — it’s familiarity.

The Stanchion is Your Friend

A stanchion isn’t a trap — it’s a training tool. Once she trusts you enough for haltering, begin leading her into the stanchion for short visits. A handful of grain or alfalfa makes the experience positive.

👉 I’ve written a full guide on Training a Dexter Heifer to Milk  that walks through the process step by step. If you’re working with an unhandled cow, the same principles apply — it just takes more patience at the start.

Progress Is Slow, But Worth It

It may take weeks or months, but the investment pays off. An unhandled Dexter can transform into a calm, steady milk cow who will work with you for the next two decades.

Patience is the difference between a stressful chore and a joyful partnership.

✅ Next Step

If you have an unhandled Dexter and don’t know where to begin, start by reading my stanchion training guide . It’s the roadmap I follow with every heifer here at Mountain Heritage Farm.